You’ve heard the expression ‘Prevention is better than cure’. But in this article, prevention comes in the form of avoidance. I knew both convey totally different messages but in this instances, I just can’t avoid it 
If you want to avoid low self esteem, just avoid these 3 things that lead to it:
1. Avoid infertile environment.
2. Avoid limiting beliefs.
3. Avoid daunting tasks.
Lets discuss each factors in turn…
*Avoid planting your seeds in the desert*
Some of us believe in miracle. I do too. But the kind of miracle I believe in, includes the things that follow ‘the Law of Cause and Effect’. I don’t expect to see my grains grow healthily in a barren desert, do you?
So to avoid low self esteem, if you see that your environment be it working environment, neighbourhood, or family, does not nurture your self-esteem, maybe it’s time to reconsider planting your seed somewhere else. You don’t need to settle for low self esteem when there’s obviously better option.
*Failure of Success…Thinking Makes It So*
This is pretty basic. What you believe about your ability determine whether you do it or you don’t. Your believe about food determine whether you’ll eat the food or not. And your believe towards people determine how you interact with them.
Limiting belief causes limiting action and feeling which includes low self esteem. Often time, belief is where avoiding detrimental effect of low self esteem must begin. As the experts like to put it: from inside – out.
*Avoid daunting task*
A friend of mine was a manager for a pharma company. He was a star performer hence he got promoted after working for one year as an executive. Enthusiasm was shown all over his face after he got promoted but little that realized, his career was going to be short lived.
Why?
Before taking up the post, he heard from his colleagues that they would give him full support. “The task as a manager was not difficult,” they said. And my poor friend walk straight into the trap (the price for listening to cheap talk).
Sure enough, he was pressured. He was pressured from his upper management, and sadly, from his own ’so-called’ supporter. They demand too much, work just enough to keep their job, and they complained non-stop.
During the managers meeting, my poor friend would take the back seat, and talk only a little, afraid of being asked to explain his team poor performance (classic low self esteem symptoms).
Moral: you can take up bigger responsibility as long as you’ve got your ground covered. If not, you could end up like my ‘low self esteem’ friend. Ask yourself,”Am I up to it?”
In short, whenever you caught yourself or someone else in an infertile environment, having limiting beliefs, and taking up daunting tasks, you’re doing them a big favor by leading them away (avoid, prevent) from all that. And you’re actually leading them to avoid low self esteem.
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